Reid C. didn’t have the rough childhood that some patients of JourneyPure Bowling Green have experienced. He came from a loving home. He was privileged, intelligent and excelled in sports. He didn’t have to work hard for anything.
Admittedly, this lifestyle gave him a sense of entitlement. He always felt like he deserved more, that he was better than everyone. He was a master manipulator and liar.
Privileged Doesn’t Mean Perfect
It’s a common misconception that it’s mostly poverty-stricken households that yield children who grow to experience more social, emotional, and behavioral problems. In a blog co-written written by Suniya Luthar, psychology professor at Arizona State University and Barry Schwartz, psychology professor at Swarthmore college, this theory is challenged, as their research indicates children of affluent parents are “becoming increasingly troubled, reckless, and self-destructive.” Research shows that drug and alcohol use is higher among affluent teens than inner-city teens. What’s more, “half of all full-time college students reported binge drinking and abuse of illegal or prescription drugs.”
The professors point to the pressure to excel in school and extracurricular activities, lack of parental discipline, and peer pressure as a few reasons behind the drug and alcohol abuse. “High levels of drinking and drug use, especially among boys, is linked with high status in the peer group. It’s the popular kids who chug six-packs after school football games.”
Reid’s Fall to Addiction
In high school, pot and alcohol were Reid’s vices. It wasn’t until college, when he joined a fraternity, that his drug use “exploded” and became the “start of the downfall.” Regular pot-smoking escalated into hits of acid, ecstasy, and prescription pills like Xanax and Percocet. He spent the semester in a haze of drug cocktails. His grades tanked and the school asked him not to come back. For someone who sailed through life getting everything he wanted, his ego couldn’t handle the rejection, so he lied his way back in. But the drug use continued, and eventually he dropped out.
“I don’t really have anything to show for those two years,” he said about his short-lived college experience. “It was a big circle of the same thing for a lot of years.”
Finding JourneyPure Bowling Green
The turning point for Reid, or at least for his parents, was the $10,000 worth of damage he did to his apartment during a drug-induced psychosis. His parents suggested rehab and of course, he was defiant.
But in October 2017, Reid came to JourneyPure Bowling Green and, reluctant or not, it didn’t take long before he realized that maybe he could learn something.
“I was in treatment for a couple days and heard a lot of similarities – even though there were a lot of differences in age and jobs, careers, degrees, there were a lot of similarities in the stories. For the first time, things started clicking. Even though my parents pushed me, I thought, maybe I’m in the right place.”
From Selfish to Selfless
Recovery is day-by-day but Reid is turning a corner, embracing sobriety and changing his old views. Through individual and group therapies, Reid started to learn more about himself and realized his major problem was his self-centeredness.
“A big thing I learned in here is if you have it and you don’t give it away, you’re never gonna keep it. I try to keep that in mind now… with little things. Say hi, smile, hold the door for people. I’m working on thinking about others more than myself. I’m working on the direction of doing things better.”
And he has some unconventional advice for others.
“The ones that are pissed at you and the ones closest to you and hate you, they’re the ones that are giving you the best advice. You just have to be willing to see it. That’s how it happened for me.”
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Chris Clancy is the in-house Content Manager for JourneyPure’s Digital Marketing team, where he gets to explore a wide variety of substance abuse- and mental health-related topics. He has more than 20 years’ experience as a journalist and researcher, with strong working knowledge of hospital systems, health insurance, content strategy, and public relations. He lives in Nashville with his wife and two kids.